Monday, May 12, 2025

How to Keep Talking When Your Mind Goes Blank. | Ep. 47

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Alex: Hi everyone, welcome back to Effortless English Podcasts.

Alex: I'm Alex.

Luna: And I’m Luna.

Alex: Today, we're talking about something super common but often ignored.

Alex: What do you do when you don’t know how to say something in English?

Luna: Oh, this happens to me all the time.

Luna: Like when I want to say something, but the word just disappears.

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: A lot of learners freeze in that moment.

Alex: They either say nothing or switch back to their native language.

Luna: And then feel super frustrated later, right?

Alex: Yep.

Alex: They think, “Why couldn’t I say that? I knew what I wanted to say!”

Luna: Or even worse—they avoid speaking altogether because they’re afraid it’ll happen again.

Alex: We’re here to help with that today.

Alex: I’ve been digging into this topic.

Alex: I read articles, watched videos, and even tested some of the advice myself.

Luna: And I want to know—what actually helps in real life.

Luna: Not just in a classroom or a textbook.

Alex: So we’ll look at why this happens, what you can do in the moment, and how to fix it long term.

Luna: Plus, we’re going to share some of our own stories.

Luna: Because trust me, we’ve both been there.

Alex: Absolutely.

Alex: And just so you know, if you want to read along or check something later—

Alex: We have a full transcript of this episode.

Alex: You can find the link in the description box below.

Luna: Also, if English is not your first language, don’t worry.

Luna: Our show includes subtitles in many languages.

Luna: Just turn on the CC option to choose your language.

Alex: One last thing before we jump in—

Alex: Don’t forget to subscribe to our channel.

Alex: It really helps us out and keeps you up to date on new episodes.

Luna: Alright!

Luna: So, let’s start with why this happens.

Luna: What kind of moments make us go, “Ugh... I don’t know how to say this”?

Alex: I think it’s more common than people admit.

Alex: Especially when you know the idea in your head but can’t find the right English words.

Luna: For example, when I was in Thailand, I tried to explain I wanted spicy but not too spicy.

Luna: But I didn’t know how to say that.

Luna: So I just kept saying “No fire mouth!” and made a fire gesture with my hand.

Alex: “No fire mouth”?

Alex: That’s amazing.

Luna: Well, it worked!

Alex: Yeah, that brings up a good point—

Alex: Most people focus too much on perfect grammar or the “correct” words.

Alex: But communication is more than that.

Luna: Totally.

Luna: It’s about getting the idea across—even if it’s weird or funny.

Alex: But before we get into creative solutions—

Alex: Let’s look at the real problems first.

Alex: Why do people get stuck?

Luna: What actually makes you go blank when trying to speak English?

Alex: We’ll break that down next.

Luna: Let’s go!




Alex: So let’s break it down.

Alex: What actually causes people to get stuck when speaking English?

Luna: I think the number one reason is simple—

Luna: They just don’t know the word they need.

Alex: That’s B-1 right there.

Alex: Not knowing the word.

Alex: For example, someone wants to talk about a “ladder” but they’ve never learned that word.

Alex: So they freeze.

Luna: Yeah, and then they start panicking like, “Oh no, what’s the word? What’s the word?”

Luna: And by the time they remember or give up, the moment is gone.

Alex: The good news is, this is super normal.

Alex: Even native speakers sometimes forget words.

Luna: I do it in Chinese all the time!

Luna: I’ll be like, “You know, that long thing... that you climb...”

Alex: Exactly!

Alex: So the real problem isn’t forgetting.

Alex: It’s not knowing what to do after you forget.

Luna: Totally agree.

Luna: And the second big problem, B-2, is not knowing how to make a sentence.

Alex: Ah yes.

Alex: You know the words.

Alex: You just don’t know how to put them together.

Luna: Like someone might know “I,” “want,” and “eat,” but doesn’t know if they should say “I want eat” or “I want to eat.”

Alex: Yep.

Alex: So they hesitate, and then they go quiet.

Luna: And that hesitation makes them feel like they’re bad at English.

Alex: When really, it’s just a grammar habit they haven’t built yet.

Luna: I’ve seen that a lot with learners.

Luna: They’re afraid of saying the wrong sentence.

Luna: Which brings us to B-3—fear.

Alex: Fear of making mistakes.

Alex: Fear of being laughed at.

Luna: Or fear of being judged.

Luna: Especially by native speakers.

Alex: This fear can be strong enough to stop people from speaking at all.

Luna: And that’s so sad, because speaking is how we learn!

Alex: I agree.

Alex: I’ve seen professionals in meetings stay quiet, even when they had great ideas—

Alex: Just because they didn’t want to risk saying something wrong.

Luna: I totally understand that.

Luna: But it’s a mental block.

Luna: And the more you avoid speaking, the stronger that block gets.

Alex: That’s why we need to talk about this openly.

Alex: It’s okay to mess up.

Alex: Nobody speaks perfectly all the time.

Luna: Not even us!

Luna: I mess up English all the time.

Alex: Same here.

Alex: And the last big issue—B-4—is when you can’t keep up.

Alex: You know the words.

Alex: You know the sentence.

Alex: But the other person talks too fast.

Luna: So fast that your brain just stops working.

Luna: You’re like, “Wait... what did they say?”

Alex: And by the time you figure it out, they’ve already moved on.

Luna: That’s the worst feeling!

Luna: You want to respond, but you’re still stuck two sentences ago.

Alex: A lot of people call this “mental blanking.”

Alex: It’s like your brain just freezes under pressure.

Luna: And this is especially common in new environments.

Luna: Like when you first arrive in a foreign country.

Alex: Or when you’re in a job interview.

Alex: Or when someone says something really fast and unexpected.

Luna: Even if your English is good, stress can shut it down.

Alex: It’s not about ability.

Alex: It’s about pressure.

Luna: So to recap, the four common problems are—

Luna: One, not knowing the word.

Alex: Two, not knowing how to build the sentence.

Luna: Three, fear of being wrong or judged.

Alex: And four, your brain freezing when others speak too fast.

Luna: If you’ve had any of these happen to you—

Luna: Don’t worry.

Luna: You’re definitely not alone.

Alex: We’ve all been there.

Alex: And coming up next, we’ll share some personal stories.

Alex: Moments when we had no idea what to say—

Alex: And how we got through it anyway.

Luna: Those will be fun.

Luna: And a little embarrassing.

Luna: But very real!




Luna: Okay, now it’s story time.

Luna: Let me tell you about the time I went to Italy.

Luna: It was my first solo trip.

Luna: I was super excited... and totally unprepared.

Alex: That sounds promising already.

Luna: So I was in this cute little bakery, right?

Luna: And I wanted to buy a croissant.

Luna: But I didn’t know the word for croissant in Italian.

Alex: Isn’t it just “cornetto”?

Luna: Well, yes, now I know that!

Luna: But back then, I had no clue.

Luna: So I stood there, pointing at the glass case.

Luna: And I said, “Umm... that one... the moon bread!”

Alex: Moon bread?

Alex: That’s amazing.

Luna: I mean, it looked like a crescent moon, okay?

Luna: The lady behind the counter just smiled and said, “Cornetto.”

Luna: And I nodded like, “Yes! Cornetto! That’s what I said!”

Alex: That’s a perfect example of what we’re talking about.

Alex: You didn’t know the word, but you still made it work.

Luna: Yeah, I didn’t let the missing word stop me.

Luna: I used description, hand gestures, and even weird names.

Alex: That’s what matters—keeping the conversation going.

Luna: Alright, your turn.

Luna: Tell us about your workplace story.

Alex: Alright, picture this.

Alex: I was in a team meeting, talking about a software bug.

Alex: I wanted to say “we should isolate the problem.”

Alex: But the word “isolate” completely disappeared from my brain.

Luna: Uh-oh.

Alex: So I paused, and I said, “We need to... umm... take the problem away from the rest.”

Alex: And then I made a motion with my hands, like separating things.

Luna: Did they understand?

Alex: Yeah!

Alex: One of my teammates said, “You mean isolate it?”

Alex: And I was like, “Yes! That’s the word!”

Luna: I love that.

Luna: You didn’t stop.

Luna: You found another way to say it.

Alex: I learned that from experience.

Alex: When I freeze and wait for the “right” word, I usually lose the moment.

Alex: But if I keep talking, the word often comes back.

Luna: Or someone else helps you out, just like in your meeting.

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: People don’t mind helping you if they see you’re trying.

Luna: And those little moments teach you more than any textbook.

Luna: Like now I’ll never forget “cornetto.”

Alex: And I’ll never forget the hand motion I used for “isolate.”

Luna: So the key lesson?

Luna: Speak anyway.

Luna: Even if it’s messy, strange, or “wrong.”

Alex: Communication is not about being perfect.

Alex: It’s about making the other person understand.

Luna: And sometimes, that’s exactly how we learn the word we needed in the first place.




Alex: So, now that we’ve shared our horror stories—

Alex: Let’s talk about what you can do when you get stuck.

Luna: Yes! Let’s get into the good stuff.

Luna: The survival tricks.

Alex: Strategy one—use simpler words to describe what you mean.

Alex: Let’s say you forget the word “microwave.”

Alex: You can say, “the machine that makes food hot fast.”

Luna: Or if you forget “refrigerator,” just say “cold food box.”

Luna: That actually sounds kind of cute.

Alex: You’d be surprised how well that works.

Alex: Most people will get the idea.

Luna: Plus, it keeps the conversation flowing.

Alex: It’s like building with Lego.

Alex: If one piece is missing, use smaller ones to build the same shape.

Luna: I like that.

Luna: Simple is better than nothing.

Alex: And often, you already know the words—you just need to rearrange them.

Luna: Alright, what’s strategy two?

Alex: Ask the other person what the word is.

Luna: You mean, like, directly say “How do you say this in English?”

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: Or you can describe the word first, then ask, “What’s the word for that?”

Luna: That takes some courage though.

Alex: True, but it also invites connection.

Alex: Most people enjoy helping others with language.

Luna: One time, I wanted to say “laundry detergent,” but I forgot.

Luna: So I said, “the soap for clothes... what do you call that?”

Luna: And the guy at the store said, “Detergent?”

Luna: Boom.

Alex: Simple and effective.

Alex: It shows effort and helps you learn.

Luna: Okay, third strategy—use gestures.

Luna: I love this one.

Luna: I’ve acted out entire meals using just my hands.

Alex: That sounds like a performance.

Luna: It kind of was!

Luna: But when I forgot “grilled fish,” I just pointed at the menu and made a sizzling sound.

Alex: And they understood?

Luna: Perfectly.

Luna: They even smiled.

Alex: Using your body helps break the silence.

Alex: A hand gesture, a face, a sound—it all adds meaning.

Luna: And it takes pressure off your brain.

Luna: Because now you’re using more than just words.

Alex: Some people think gestures are childish, but they’re not.

Alex: They’re part of real communication.

Luna: Totally agree.

Luna: Okay, last one—strategy four.

Luna: Use examples.

Luna: Like, start with “It’s like...” and then explain something similar.

Alex: I do this all the time.

Alex: If I forget the word “thermometer,” I might say, “It’s like the thing you use when you’re sick to check your heat.”

Luna: And the other person might say, “Oh, a thermometer?”

Luna: Boom—problem solved.

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: “It’s like...” gives your listener a clue.

Luna: It also gives you time to think.

Alex: Right, it’s a bridge.

Alex: You’re not stopping—you’re moving forward slowly.

Luna: And it makes the listener more patient.

Alex: Because they see you’re trying.

Luna: So just to review—

Luna: One: Use simple words to describe what you mean.

Alex: Two: Ask the listener what the word is.

Luna: Three: Use body language and gestures.

Alex: And four: Say “It’s like...” and give an example.

Luna: These are all things you can do right away.

Alex: No fancy grammar.

Alex: No perfect vocabulary.

Luna: Just simple tools that work.

Alex: And with practice, they get easier.

Luna: So next time you get stuck, don’t freeze.

Luna: Try one of these tricks.

Alex: And if one doesn’t work, try another.

Alex: It’s all part of the learning game.




Alex: Alright, we’ve covered what to do in the moment.

Alex: Now let’s talk about how to get better at this over time.

Luna: Yes, because getting stuck is normal—

Luna: But staying stuck doesn’t have to be.

Alex: First tip—start building a habit of descriptive language.

Alex: That means training yourself to describe things instead of naming them.

Luna: So instead of thinking “What’s the exact word?”

Luna: You think, “How can I explain what it is?”

Alex: Right.

Alex: Like if you forget “vacuum cleaner,” say, “the thing that cleans the floor with air.”

Luna: Or if you forget “earphones,” say, “the little speakers for your ears.”

Alex: It’s not perfect, but it works.

Alex: And the more you practice, the faster your brain gets at it.

Luna: Okay, second step—practice explaining English in English.

Luna: Don’t translate.

Luna: Just try to stay in the language.

Alex: For example, take the word “umbrella.”

Alex: Instead of looking it up in your native language, ask yourself:

Alex: “What is it? What does it do?”

Luna: And then say: “It’s something you use when it rains. It keeps you dry.”

Alex: That’s right.

Alex: You just explained “umbrella” without using another language.

Luna: This is hard at first, but so helpful.

Luna: It forces your brain to think in English.

Alex: And that’s the goal—to build thinking skills, not just memory.

Luna: Third tip—practice in easy situations first.

Luna: Don’t wait for the scary moment in a meeting or interview.

Alex: Start by describing simple things in your room.

Alex: Like, “This is a pen. I use it to write.”

Alex: “This is a mug. I drink tea from it.”

Luna: It feels silly, but it’s powerful.

Luna: You’re building your “language muscles.”

Alex: Just like in the gym—you start with light weights.

Alex: Then slowly go heavier.

Luna: And your fluency grows the same way.

Alex: Final step—practice in real-life situations.

Alex: You don’t need to be perfect.

Alex: You just need to try.

Luna: Try describing what you’re doing while you cook.

Luna: “I’m cutting the vegetables.”

Luna: “Now I’m frying them in a pan.”

Alex: Or talk to yourself while walking.

Alex: “I’m going to the store.”

Alex: “I see a dog. It’s big and brown.”

Luna: And if you’re really serious—

Luna: Act out full conversations.

Luna: Pretend you’re ordering coffee, even if you’re at home.

Alex: That’s what language learners call “shadow practice.”

Alex: You copy real situations to build comfort.

Luna: Or even better, find a language buddy.

Luna: Practice these things together.

Alex: The key is to make these habits automatic.

Alex: So when the real situation comes—

Alex: You’re not frozen. You’re ready.

Luna: And these steps don’t need to take hours.

Luna: Five minutes a day is enough.

Alex: Consistency beats intensity.

Luna: So to sum it up—

Luna: Step one: Build your description habit.

Alex: Step two: Explain words in English.

Luna: Step three: Practice in easy situations.

Alex: Step four: Use real-life or simulated situations.

Luna: Bit by bit, these will make a huge difference.

Alex: You won’t just learn English.

Alex: You’ll start thinking in English.




Luna: Okay, now I want to talk about something real.

Luna: Not grammar, not vocabulary—just feelings.

Luna: Because a lot of the time, the thing stopping you isn’t English.

Luna: It’s fear.

Alex: Yeah, fear is a huge part of it.

Luna: For me, it was perfectionism.

Luna: I wanted to sound perfect.

Luna: If I couldn’t say it right, I didn’t want to say it at all.

Alex: That sounds familiar.

Luna: I used to plan my sentences in my head first.

Luna: Then say them.

Luna: And if I made even one mistake, I would feel embarrassed.

Luna: I thought people would laugh or think I was dumb.

Alex: But they didn’t, right?

Luna: No, they didn’t care.

Luna: That’s the thing.

Luna: Most people just want to understand you.

Luna: They don’t expect you to be perfect.

Luna: That was a big shift for me.

Luna: I realized I could still connect with people, even with broken English.

Luna: In fact, when I made mistakes, people were usually kind.

Alex: That’s true.

Luna: I started to let go of the idea that mistakes mean failure.

Luna: I started to think of them as part of learning.

Luna: Like, “Oh cool, I said it wrong, now I know how to say it right.”

Luna: It took time, though.

Luna: I had to talk to myself a lot.

Luna: I had to say, “It’s okay, just try.”

Luna: And honestly, every time I spoke anyway, I felt stronger.

Alex: That’s growth right there.

Luna: So if you’re listening to this and you feel scared—

Luna: Please know that’s normal.

Luna: But also know that fear doesn’t have to win.

Luna: You can speak.

Luna: You will make mistakes.

Luna: But that’s how you learn.

Luna: That’s how you build confidence.

Luna: Not by waiting until you’re perfect—

Luna: But by speaking even when you’re not.

Alex: I think that’s one of the most powerful messages today.

Luna: Thanks.

Luna: It’s from experience, not a textbook.

Luna: So here’s my advice:

Luna: Be kind to yourself.

Luna: Be okay with small steps.

Luna: Don’t wait until you “feel ready.”

Luna: Just start.

Luna: Because confidence isn’t something you wait for.

Luna: It’s something you create by doing.




Alex: Alright, now let me take over for a bit.

Alex: I want to talk about strategy—specifically, efficient strategy.

Alex: Because I’m lazy.

Alex: I don’t like wasting time.

Luna: You said it, not me.

Alex: When I started learning Spanish, I didn’t try to learn everything.

Alex: I built a few mental templates—what I call “thinking models.”

Luna: What do you mean by that?

Alex: Let’s say I want to ask for help.

Alex: My model might be: “Hi, I need help with ____.”

Alex: Then I just plug in the word—“my bag,” “directions,” “ordering.”

Luna: So you don’t freeze because the frame is already there.

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: You don’t have to create a sentence from zero.

Alex: You just reuse patterns.

Luna: That’s smart.

Alex: And I do the same with common situations.

Alex: I have sentence starters like—

Alex: “Can you tell me…”

Alex: “I’m looking for…”

Alex: “How do I get to…”

Luna: So basically, a list of phrases ready to go.

Alex: Yep.

Alex: I call it my “phrase bank.”

Alex: You only need ten to twenty of these to cover 80% of real life.

Luna: That’s way less than people think.

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: It’s not about knowing everything—it’s about knowing what matters.

Alex: And if I really get stuck—

Alex: I use tools.

Luna: Like translation apps?

Alex: Yeah.

Alex: Or voice-to-text.

Alex: I say what I want in my language, the app turns it into English.

Luna: But doesn’t that make people lazy?

Alex: Only if you rely on it all the time.

Alex: I use it as a backup, not a crutch.

Alex: It gives me the confidence to keep talking.

Luna: That’s fair.

Luna: And sometimes, it’s faster than panicking.

Alex: Exactly.

Alex: In a high-pressure moment, I’d rather get help from my phone—

Alex: Than stand there saying nothing.

Luna: So your three steps are:

Luna: One, use mental templates.

Luna: Two, build a phrase bank.

Luna: Three, use tools when needed.

Alex: Right.

Alex: None of this replaces practice.

Alex: But it gives you something to fall back on.

Luna: And that alone can make a huge difference.

Alex: Think of it like packing your bag before a trip.

Alex: You don’t take everything.

Alex: Just the things you’ll need the most.

Luna: And a translator app, just in case.

Alex: Always.




Alex: Now let’s answer some of the questions we hear all the time.

Luna: These are things we’ve heard from learners, friends, and even ourselves.

Alex: First one—what if I completely don’t know how to say something?

Luna: Like, totally blank?

Alex: Yeah.

Alex: You don’t know the word, can’t describe it, and nothing comes out.

Luna: That’s the worst.

Luna: I’ve been there.

Alex: Me too.

Alex: Here’s what I do: I pause, smile, and say, “I don’t know the word, but I’ll try to explain.”

Luna: That takes the pressure off instantly.

Alex: It buys you time, and the listener knows what to expect.

Luna: And most people will lean in and help.

Alex: If that doesn’t work, point at something or show with your hands.

Luna: Or say, “Let me show you” and draw it or act it out.

Alex: It doesn’t have to be perfect.

Alex: Just stay in the conversation.

Luna: That’s the key.

Luna: Don’t shut down—stay in it.

Alex: Question two:

Alex: How do I make people understand me if I can’t say the exact word?

Luna: Oooh, this is where creativity helps.

Luna: Say what it’s like.

Luna: Use examples.

Luna: “It’s like a phone, but smaller.”

Luna: “It’s like tea, but cold.”

Alex: Or describe what it does.

Alex: “It’s something you wear when it rains.”

Alex: “It helps you see at night.”

Luna: And your tone helps too.

Luna: If you sound open and friendly, people will want to understand you.

Alex: I always remind learners: You’re not doing a test.

Alex: You’re having a conversation.

Luna: And conversations are messy by nature.

Luna: That’s okay.

Alex: Last question—

Alex: “Will people laugh at me if I say something wrong?”

Luna: Oh man, this one makes me sad.

Luna: The truth is, most people won’t laugh.

Luna: They’ll be impressed that you’re even trying.

Alex: That’s right.

Alex: You’re speaking a second language.

Alex: That’s a big deal.

Luna: And if someone does laugh at you—

Luna: That says more about them than about you.

Alex: Yep.

Alex: Their laughter is their problem, not your mistake.

Luna: So don’t let the fear of judgment stop you.

Luna: Everyone makes mistakes.

Luna: Even native speakers.

Alex: Especially native speakers!

Luna: What matters is that you speak.

Luna: You try.

Luna: You grow.

Alex: And we’re proud of you for that.

Alex: Always.




Alex: Alright, let’s wrap things up.

Alex: We’ve covered a lot today.

Luna: Yeah, so let’s do a quick review.

Luna: First, we talked about common problems—

Luna: Forgetting words, getting stuck, feeling afraid, or going blank.

Alex: Then we shared our own experiences.

Alex: Real-life stories where we had no idea what to say—but made it work anyway.

Luna: After that, we gave you four easy tricks to use when you’re stuck.

Luna: Describe it.

Luna: Ask for help.

Luna: Use gestures.

Luna: Or say “It’s like…” and explain.

Alex: Then we went deeper.

Alex: We showed you how to train your brain for long-term improvement.

Alex: Describe daily things.

Alex: Think in English.

Alex: Practice simple situations.

Alex: And simulate real conversations.

Luna: I shared how I let go of my fear of being perfect.

Luna: How I learned to make mistakes and still keep talking.

Alex: And I shared my lazy guy strategies—

Alex: Mental templates, phrase banks, and smart use of apps.

Luna: Then we answered some big listener questions.

Luna: What to do when you don’t know anything.

Luna: How to be understood.

Luna: And whether people will laugh at your English.

Alex: The answer?

Alex: Keep going, even if it’s messy.

Luna: Because progress doesn’t need to be perfect.

Luna: It just needs to happen.

Alex: You’re not alone in this.

Alex: We’ve been there too.

Luna: And honestly, you’re doing better than you think.

Alex: So the next time your mind goes blank—

Alex: Smile.

Alex: Breathe.

Alex: And try anyway.

Luna: You’ve got more tools now than you did before.

Luna: And more courage too.

Alex: And if you forget everything we said—

Alex: Just remember this:

Alex: Keep speaking.

Alex: Keep trying.

Alex: That’s how fluency grows.

Luna: That’s how you grow.

Alex: Alright, that’s it for today’s episode.

Luna: If you enjoyed this, please leave us a comment below.

Luna: Tell us your stories.

Luna: We’d love to hear how you’ve handled tough speaking moments.

Alex: And don’t forget to subscribe to our channel.

Alex: That way, you’ll never miss an episode.

Luna: Also, remember you can find the full transcript in the video description.

Luna: And subtitles are available in many languages—just turn on CC.

Alex: Thanks for spending time with us.

Luna: Keep learning, keep laughing, and keep going.

Alex: See you next time.

Luna: Bye for now!





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